This story begins when after years of struggle and search, a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity presents itself. He is excited to begin the required journey to fulfill his vision and is ready to face any and all obstacles along the way and then he meets the man with the rope.
I choose to tell this story because I believe that most all of us recognize persons who will, if allowed, make themselves almost totally dependent on someone else and are willing to take no responsibility for themselves. I wonder, do we sometimes understand ourselves as the dependent one?
If you want to make the story work for you, I encourage you to raise some questions of it. Here are some that come to my mind:
- How would you get the man hanging from the rope to take responsibility for himself?
- How much responsibility does the man on the bridge have for the other?
- Could both men be the same person?
- Why are the dependent so often calling the shots?
- If someone came up to you and said, "Hold the end or I'll jump," what would you do?
often than not, if one thinks about it, there is more to any story.
The story of the caged bird is a simple little story, but tell it to
a child and you'll see what I mean. Put yourself in the place of the
little bird yourself and translate the metaphor into your environment
and circumstances and your story will be obviously be more complex.
there is no judgment in the story about what was the right thing for
the little bird to do, we are challenged to examine our own response
to the risk of freedom and security. Only you
can decide how long to weigh your options and what is the right
response to any challenge. The story doesn't judge the little bird.
It would never feel the wind in its wings or the sun on its back but
neither would it feel the bitter cold or fear predators.
I have said, I would have heard this story differently when I was
eighteen or when I was forty than I hear it now. I don't know that I
have any more answers now than I did then, but I have come to believe
that the more I am in harmony with myself, the people around me, and
the world in which I live, the more precious freedom is and the more
I am willing to risk.
little bird in a cage; something to think about.